Many older adults say their sex lives improve as they age. Yours can, too. Improving your sex life requires more communication with your partner and small changes both of you can make, including:
* Expand your definition of sex. Sex is more than vaginal penetration. As you age, other options might be more comfortable and more fulfilling. Touch can be a good alternative to intercourse. It can simply mean holding each other. It can also mean sensual massage, masturbation or oral sex.
* Communicate with your partner. Communication brings you and your partner close together. Discuss the changes you’re going through and what your partner can do to accommodate you during sex. Maybe a different position makes sex easier for you, or other sexual activities, such as massage or cuddling, might interest you. Ask your partner about his or her needs and ways that you can also be accommodating. Communication itself can be arousing.
* Make changes to your routine. Simple changes can improve your sex life. Change the time of day when you have sex to a time when you have the most energy. Try the morning — when you’re refreshed from a good night’s sleep — rather than at the end of a long day. Because it might take longer for you to become aroused, take more time to set the stage for romance, such as a romantic dinner or an evening of dancing. Try a new sexual position. You might find one that’s more comfortable for you and your partner.
* Manage your expectations. If you didn’t have sex very often as a younger adult, don’t expect to have lots of sex as an older adult. Maybe you and your partner expressed your intimacy in other ways when you were younger. Partners who enjoy frequent sex when they’re younger are more likely to continue that as they age.
* Take care of yourself. A healthy diet and regular exercise keep your body finely tuned. This keeps you ready for sex at any age. Eat a balanced diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables. Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day, most days of the week. Avoid alcohol, as excessive use decreases sexual function in both men and women. Illegal drugs such as marijuana and cocaine impair sexual function, also.